Dating is a big part of my life. It is how I meet new people, socialise, learn about myself and others. The majority of my dates are passionate exchanges of life stories, knowledge, and ideas. Talking to friends, I discovered that my dating and hookup adventures are different. It is not only because I date people of the same sex as mine. Here might be an excellent place to mention that, as a gay man, I'm writing about the experiences of gay men. Moreover, I don't feel comfortable expanding the discourse to other queer groups because I am not sure how they fit into this problematic online dating game.
In the UK, fewer people every year are having to keep their sexuality under wraps. However, there is a large percentage of those who still do. Gay men, in particular, are afraid of showing their true selves because of shame, internalised homophobia, cultural background, and career obligations. Dating within the LGBTQ community involves individuals who share similar life experiences. These often include struggling to accept one' sexuality and coming out (though not everyone has reached that stage yet). This is something that cisgender heterosexual partners cannot relate to.
Dating and finding casual sex as a gay man [in London] usually start online. Grindr is the geo-social (you can see who is nearby) app that dominates the market and the entire concept of gay hookup culture (Mastroyiannis, 2018). The way Grindr works is simple but efficient. The app scans the area around you and detects other users who are in your proximities. Users can see others' pictures and information. If two fancy each other, they can decide to meet up.
Grindr streamlines the process of meeting someone new by facilitating interactions based on everyday needs (What are people looking for?). To do that, the app designed around labels your perfect bang for their buck is only a couple of taps away.
While platforms like Grindr or SCRUFF bridge the social disparity between those individuals who have come out of the closet and those who have not, they do just as much harm to the community as they do good (Kit, 2015).
No label is no community
Hooking up in the UK LGBTQ community has a complicated history. It is rooted in—surprise—the general homophobia and oppression queer folks experienced during the 20th century (Took, 2017). You'd think that advanced platforms like Grindr should be places where people feel comfortable showing their true selves. In the ideal world, a gay app would be a safe space for queer folks to escape the judgmental reality of heteronormative society and build a sense of community along the way (Gardner, 2016).
Grindr operates on a system of labels that force users to define themselves, their bodies, and their sexuality in a few words. Being able to sort out a potential date by their body mass and height excludes anyone whose body type society deems less acceptable. Inclusive, right?
Users can also select their tribe—categories often based on body type, but now they include masculinity or femininity (Took, 2017). Tribes derive from LGBT slang. During the first seven decades of the 20th century, the queer community in the UK used slang to communicate in public without revealing their sexual orientation to others. LGBT slang is always-changing and differs for each language and country.
While some labels are shaped like coffins, as former lesbian advocate Chirlane McCray once stated in an interview, others are necessary for LGBTQ folks to define themselves. Labels allow people to have their identity recognised, thus finding the support of a community. Grindr has already moved on to make their app more inclusive in that direction by letting users identify as genderqueer or to specify their preferred pronouns.
Gug and Looking are two interconnected works I created for the 2019's University of Greenwich Second Year Show. Titled square_one, this is an annual exhibition supported by the School of Design and organised by students in their second year of University. The works I presented respond to the subject of gay casual dating and hookups in London in 2019.
Finding someone worth spending time with in that sea of closeted individuals and body shamers that is Grindr is a constant reminder that there is still loads to do for our community. A visible sign of this issue is the number of people who don't show a picture of their face on their profile. Blank profiles and torso-only users have become the norm on Grindr. Not to mention those who prefer posting a picture of their cat or a screenshot from a Facebook post about Ruislip Lido: "The Only Beach In London You Can Get To By Tube" instead of their face.
By collecting as many examples of face-less profiles as I could, I created Looking. I needed a work that would be as conceptually as effective as it was visually. Thus I looped the screenshots I collected into a fast slideshow which is played back by a digital frame. The device is the only physical work installed at the exhibition.
Gug is more complex because of its interactivity and the amount of data it processes in the background. It is essentially a Grindr Username Generator (shortened to gug). No interface, no fuss. It only generates text and emojis. The work can be accessed either via a link or QR code which I printed on a label and installed alongside the digital frame.
Visit Gug here: bit.ly/visitgug
Screenshots from Gug in action
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